Self care comes in many forms; for some its a walk or run to clear the mind, others it’s writing or creating something, whatever the self care is it’s important to engage with in it as often as required. We often don’t take the time for self care, thinking it is a selfish endeavour, or that we are coping fine with our daily struggles. The reality is that more and more people are suffering from depression, anxiety, and are committing suicide because they cannot see the way out of their situation. Last year I was in that very situation. I was not self caring as I should have been, and it nearly cost me my life.
Earlier this week I posted about being at Rosslyn Bay Marina and enjoying the sea breeze and quiet crashing of the waves. I have always enjoyed the ocean; the rolling of the swell, the gentle noise of the water against the hull of the boat or rocks of the shore. I find it so calming, it has always been a great way for me to clear my mind. That’s probably a fairly large part of the reason I joined the Navy, truth be told. I don’t however enjoy the beach, the sand gets everywhere and tends to be covered in people, but that’s besides the point. So when I had the opportunity to go, sit, clear the mind, and enjoy the waves on the rocks at the Marina I took it. I was only there for 20-30 minutes in total, but my mind felt refreshed and recharged.
My faith has always been a great comforter no matter what my situation. I have been able to turn to God and at the very least lessen my anxiety. Some people have this luxury, others do not. Some people meditate, use crystals and oils, or in other ways care for their spiritual side. The care of soul, for lack of any other term, is quite often overlooked. In a modern and often skeptical society any real focus on anything that isn’t completely tangible, visible, and “real” is often immediately discarded as useless. I would encourage everyone to find what cares for their “soul” and engage in the activity at least once a day. Its doesn’t have to be for hours, but enough to top up.
Your physical well being is also massively important when dealing with self care. Some people go for a walk, others a run, some people go to the gym, others get a hair cut, or get a massage. Our lives are getting busier and busier, and as such we often don’t take the time to care for ourselves. I know I for one did not care for myself over the past 12 months or so and as such gained an enormous amount of weight. As such I am now self caring and losing the weight. I am a shaved head, bearded gentlemen, I enjoy nothing more that sitting in a barbers chair having my head shaved with a razor and generally getting pampered for 45 minutes. I find it incredible relaxing, and I feel that I look better afterwards too, which helps with reassuring my self image. Whatever it is, getting your nails done, a deep tissue massage, or acupuncture, try and engage with it as often as time allows.
There are numerous ways to self care, but as long as you take care of your Mind, your Soul, and your Body, you can’t go wrong.
Do you have a favourite self care activity or technique? Feel the there is something that needs to be shared? Add it to the comments below, it could be what someone is after.
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